How to Talk to a Guy Who Doesn't Know You

Talking to a guy who doesn't know you might seem difficult at first, but he need not remain a stranger for long. As long as you show interest in him as a person, project a sense of confidence and share some brief details about yourself, you have a good chance of making a new friend or acquaintance. You can easily turn a stranger into a new potential date.

STEP 1
Greet the stranger with a "Hello," and wait for a reply. If he shows no interest or eye contact, you might want to talk to someone else.

STEP 2
Make some small talk. If the guy has replied to your greeting, then you can bring up other common topics, such as commenting on the weather or sports, or admiring something he is wearing. Engaging him on light topics gives you an opportunity to move toward deeper subjects.


STEP 3
Volunteer a personal detail. If the small talk has gone well and he hasn't looked away or tried to ignore you, you might give him some information on yourself, such as why you are in that particular location. Offering information on yourself lets him know that you're comfortable sharing information with him, making him more likely to return the favor.

STEP 4
Ask about him. Men like to talk about themselves, too, so find out what you can about him. Ask about his interests, hobbies, his job or any other information you'd like to find out. When talking to him about himself, listen more and interject when you hear interesting information. Giving him the spotlight increases your chances of seeing him again.

How to Talk to Girls You Don't Know

Every guy has been in the same position at some point in his life: He sees an attractive girl and wants to strike up a conversation, but he's just too afraid or nervous to waltz up and jump right in. The more beautiful the girl, the more difficult it is. Yet for many men, just talking to any girl he doesn't know can be an ordeal worse than giving a public speech. This need not be the case, however, because once you know a few rules of thumb, there is no girl in the world you can't approach.

STEP 1
Approach the girl armed without fear of rejection. If you are rejected, depending on your taste, there are still other potential dates. Rejection does not mean the end of your dating life, but staying focus on the fear of rejection can limit your confidence Don't fear rejection -- embrace the possibility of acceptance.

STEP 2
Learn the secret of confidence. When walking up to talk to a girl, exude confidence. Walk with your shoulders back and look her in the eye as you approach. Talk without fumbling and mumbling, no matter how nervous you are. Confidence shows that you are assured in yourself, but also sends the message that you are certain that you're interested in a girl you're approaching.

STEP 3

Make a girl laugh -- if you do so, you can get her to talk to you all night long. Many women admire a man that can make her laugh. Making a girl laugh is more about peppering the conversation with witty observations than telling jokes. You must learn to integrate your humor into the flow of conversation by making funny remarks about what she says and humorous comments about your surroundings.

STEP 4

Give an original compliment to spark interest. Be creative. Approaching after you have heard her laugh gives you the perfect opportunity to tell her what a great laugh she has, but be sure to have something funny to follow it up with so you get her to laugh again. Comparing a girl to a great beauty can be dicey, so you don't want to tell a girl she looks like a certain celebrity if she thinks that celebrity isn't attractive.

STEP 5

Act like a gentleman. While it is true that there's a girl out there for every guy and deviant behavior is all around, the odds are in your favor if you act like a nice guy instead of a total jerk. A gentleman isn't crass or crude, and he treats a girl with respect. The odds are also in your favor that a healthy helping of the guys who have approached this girl in the past were less than classy, so you have that going for you.

Tips for Finding Out If a Girl Is Single

It's a jungle out there in the dating world, and a guy has to watch out or he might get burned. You might see a girl at a party, meet her through mutual friends or just run into her on the street, but you need to know if she's available to date -- without a boyfriend, fiance or husband -- before you pursue getting her digits or asking her out. With some detective work, you can find out.

ASK AROUND
If you see a girl at a party or with a group of friends, you can pull one of her friends aside and simply ask if she's single. Don't, however, ask one of her girlfriends if you don't know the friend well; the girlfriend might think you're making conversation because you like her, and then be offended when you ask about her friend instead. Feel free to ask any male friend, but beware that he might actually be her boyfriend. And when you ask, don't say, "Is she single?" Try something more nonchalant, like "What's her story?" so it's not clear that you're asking for yourself.

SOCIAL NETWORKING
Social networking isn't just for fun; you can do some serious detective work by checking out a Myspace or Facebook page. Add her as a friend, and then you'll be able to see her "relationship status." However, even if her status isn't posted, you can look through some of her profile pictures or photo albums to see if there is a recurring appearance of the same guy or any kissing pictures. This usually means she's involved with someone.

BE DIRECT
If you really want to find out if a girl is single and are confident, just ask her directly. The very worst she can do is tell you she's unavailable, and she'll probably feel flattered that you even asked. Begin with some simple small talk about her interests and throw a little humor in. When it seems that you've created a rapport with her, ask her what she's doing later that night. If she's not available, she may say she has plans with her boyfriend. You get the information you sought, and you depart as friends with no harm done.

Are You on a Date or Just Hanging Out?

When a potential love interest proposes a get-together, sometimes, that person’s intentions can be tough to gauge. Is that invite for coffee a pretext for “I really want to get to know you better” or just a simple courtesy, as in: “I have a few minutes to grab coffee…want to join me?” It’s tricky, no? We asked Washington, D.C.-based relationship expert Jennifer Bidwell and singles across the country for tips on how to determine your crush’s true intentions. That way, the next time you’re prepping for a date, you’ll know that you’re actually going on one instead of just “hanging out” with an opposite-sex friend.

SITUATION #1: A MAN ASKS YOU OUT ON A WHIM
The verdict: Possibly a date, but not likely.
According to Bidwell, when a guy wants to ask you out — unless he’s a stammering adolescent — he’ll most often ask you to join him for a specific activity, like having dinner or catching a movie on a certain date at a specific time. “When a guy says, ‘Hey, how would you feel about grabbing dinner with me next Wednesday at 8 p.m.?’ it means he’s 100% asking you out on a date,” asserts Bidwell. “This kind of invitation requires some thought and planning, which is a clear indicator that it isn’t casual.” However, if he asks you that afternoon if you’d like to meet up later to go grab a bite, it’s more likely a casual invite to hang out because he sees you as a friend. “While a last-minute invite could still be a date because it doesn’t indicate thought or planning on his part, it’s less likely that the invitation was made with ‘I’m taking her on a date to get to know her better’ intentions. Instead, it’s more of a ‘Well, I have some time in my schedule, and she’d be cool to hang out with, so let’s see,’” Bidwell explains. Jason, a 32-year-old communications consultant in Spokane, WA, concurs: “When I ask a woman out spontaneously, it usually means that I think she’s cool and I’d like to hang out with her — but not necessarily because I’m thinking we might have relationship potential. It’s more about me thinking she’d be a fun time for that night.”

SITUATION #2: A GUY SEEMS KIND OF NERVOUS WHEN ASKING YOU OUT
The verdict: It’s definitely a date .
This one should be obvious, but as men can often come across as less-than-expert communicators while doing something innocuous (like ordering a burger from a member of the opposite sex), you may be hesitant to read his nervousness as a sign that he’s asking you out on a real date. Fear not, says Bidwell: “Even the most confident guys feel a little nervous when asking out a woman they like; there’s no one on the planet who’s immune to the fear of rejection.” So if he beats around the bush, fiddles with his watch or says “um” a lot when he’s inviting you to dinner, you can be sure he’s not asking you to join him for a casual hang-out with his buddies. “I’ll never forget when my boyfriend asked me out on our first ‘real’ date,” says Karen, 24, an executive assistant from Kansas City, MO. “ He could barely get the words out — which was so weird, because he was like Mr. Calm, Cool and Collected in every other aspect of his life! I didn’t think he was interested in me, but he was clearly so scared to ask me out that I knew immediately that he had feelings for me. If not, why would he have been so terrified to ask me to see a movie with him?”

SITUATION #3: WHEN ASKING YOU TO DO SOMETHING, HE CALLS YOU “DUDE”

The verdict: It’s probably not a date.

Unfortunately, “dude” has become part of our daily lexicon — even girlfriends use it when addressing each other in conversation. However, a man who uses this seemingly innocent word offers a very important clue about his feelings for you, says Bidwell: “When a guy addresses you as ‘dude’ — especially when asking you out — it’s an indication that he thinks of you more as ‘one of the guys’ and less like a potential girlfriend,” she asserts. “It’s almost like a mini-Freudian slip, if you will.” Margot, a 30-year-old paralegal in Red Hook, NJ, recalls one guy who always called her “dude” that she had a crush on: “I never understood why Thom wasn’t asking me out on a real date — we hung out a lot after work with friends, and we’d grab drinks together all the time. It seemed like he was into me because he always invited me to join him and his buddies,” she says. “It wasn’t until I realized that he called me and all of his other friends — both male and female — ‘dude.’ It was like a light bulb went on over my head; oh, that’s how he thinks of me — and the other women who were there too, obviously — as being just another one of the ‘dudes.’ After that, I realized it was never going to be what I wanted, so I moved on.”

SITUATION #4: ON YOUR FIRST DATE, HE DOESN’T OFFER TO PAY (OR AGREES TO SPLIT THE CHECK WITH YOU)

The verdict: It’s not a “real” date.

“At the risk of setting the Women’s Movement back decades, when a man is interested in you becoming more than just his friend, he will always pay the check on your first date,” Bidwell says. “A guy who’s trying to woo and impress you will want to seem chivalrous and manly. Paying for your date is one way he can do that.” Conversely, a man who doesn’t reach for the check right away or immediately concedes when you suggest splitting it with him isn’t as interested in impressing you, which means he might not be into you in that way, says Bidwell. “And usually,” she adds, “a guy who wants to split the tab is sending you a message that you’re not in this together.” Braden, a 28-year-old construction manager in Atlanta, GA, concurs: “There’s no way I’m letting a woman pay in the beginning — absolutely not! When it’s a casual thing between friends, I almost always split the check. Mainly it’s because I don’t want her to get the wrong impression, like that we’re on a date or that I want it to become something more or whatever.”

SITUATION #5: HE ASKS YOU LOTS OF QUESTIONS WHEN YOU’RE SPENDING TIME TOGETHER

The verdict: It’s a date.

As your years of dating may have already taught you by now, most men aren’t expert first-date conversationalists. However, if you find yourself out with someone who’s asking you lots of questions, chances are good that he’s trying to get to know you better because he really wants to assess you a potential partner, says Bidwell. “For most men, making small talk is painful,” she explains. “A guy who’s interested in discovering more about what you majored in at college, whether or not you like your job and your boss, why you chose to move to the city in which you currently live — all of those ‘getting to know you’ questions indicate that he truly wants to know the answers so he can understand the real you.” Jared, 29, an urban planner in Detroit, MI, says, “When I’m not into a woman, I don’t really care too much about hearing all the details of her life. Sorry if that sounds callous, but it’s true. If it’s a woman I do like, though, I want to know as much as I can about her, and hearing all of those things isn’t annoying — it’s enjoyable. That’s how I can tell whether or not I really like someone.” When DC-based journalist Chelsea Kaplan isn’t helping you solve your relationship problems, she’s making jewelry. Check it out at 

How to Tell a Woman You Have a Crush on Her

Admitting your feelings for a woman can be both exhilarating and terrifying. Rejection is a tough mistress that many people want to avoid at all costs. Think carefully to ensure the best results before you profess your crush on a woman. Most women appreciate romance, so make a plan that takes advantage of maximum romantic appeal, but know that the most important thing is self-confidence. Feel confident about yourself and keep a level head as you express your feelings.

STEP 1
Spend time with her in the “just friends” stage to test her emotional climate. If she goes out of her way to make you smile, take you places and do things for you, it’s a good sign that she likes you. Her body language will tell you a lot as well. For example, if she casually touches you often, it’s likely a green light to reveal your feelings.

STEP 2
Picture yourself telling her about your crush in your head as practice. Rehearse the words you want to tell her and consider the location for your confession. Having a pre-rehearsed game plan for divulging your feelings for her will keep you in charge and relaxed.

STEP 3
Talk with her friends before you make your move. Ask about her current relationship status and whether she thinks you have a chance or not. Swear them to secrecy, of course, or they may spill the beans before you have the chance to confess.

STEP 4
Shop for supplies you need when you finally tell her. Flowers and candy are classics, but you can get specific items you know she enjoys.

STEP 5
Invite her to go out with you to the place where you will confess your true feelings. Remain calm and bide your time through the night. Pull her aside when the moment seems right and tell her how you feel.

How to Get the Confidence to Talk to Your Crush

When you have a crush on someone, it feels like talking to that person is the most difficult thing on earth. Yet, you can't get anywhere if you don't. It's even more important to talk to him or her before someone else does, or before he or she loses any possible interest in you. Some people may tell you to just walk up and "go for it," but it's important to boost your confidence before you do so.

STEP 1

Groom yourself. Taking care of your physical appearance just seems to boost confidence. Before you approach your crush, or if you know you will be seeing him or her around, make sure you look as good as you can. Take care of your personal hygiene, wear nice, fitting, attractive clothes and shoes, comb or style your hair, and put on a nice perfume or cologne, or at least use a good deodorant. Don't worry about what looks good to anyone else. Do what feels good to you, and your confidence will soar.

STEP 2

Get comfortable with rejection. You must be comfortable with rejection if you want to talk to your crush confidently. He or she may reject you for one of many reasons. You may not be his or her physical type, or he or she may already have a significant other. If you worry about rejection, your confidence will falter. Keep your expectations simple, assume the worst and hope for the best, and your initial encounter, whether successful or not, will go smoothly.

STEP 3

Find out things you have in common. If you want to talk to your crush and not make a fool of yourself, you have to have an idea of what kinds of things will be appealing to him or her. Observe your crush for a few days and see what he or she seems to like. That will form the basis of your initial conversation. You can break the ice by starting with a common interest that you both share, before you begin asking him or her more penetrating questions.

STEP 4

Practice. To gain confidence in any aspect of your life, you need practice. Talking to a crush is no different. You may be lacking confidence at the prospect of talking to your crush because you feel awkward around strangers, or around people of a certain sex. Whatever the case may be, set up low-stakes situations that are similar to the ones involving your crush, and talk to those people casually. With time and practice, you will have developed the confidence you need to talk to your crush.

STEP 5

Start small. Sometimes we forget that our crushes are also humans and that we do not have to figure out an entire conversation in advance before we begin talking. Aim to introduce yourself to your crush in passing several times, before you hope to have a lengthy conversation. This way, he or she knows who you are, and you both can start feeling comfortable around each other. So, the next few times you meet, say hi and nothing more. With a little time, your confidence level around your crush will have increased, and you will be able to talk to this person for longer periods.

Signs that Someone Has a Crush on You

If you are not sure whether someone has a crush on you, maybe it's because you don't know the tell-tale signs. Sometimes people miss important clues of a crush like tone of voice or body language. Watching out for certain signs gives you the right hints to know who's into you.

EYE CONTACT
If someone holds eye contact with you for a long period of time, chances are good that he has a crush on you. Eye contact is a major sign of attraction. You'll know someone has a crush on you when they endeavor to meet your gaze and stay with it. Someone who likes you wants to lock eyes with you so they can send you the right signals.

SMOOTH TALKER
Someone who has a crush on you is likely to use a certain kind of voice. People often show attraction by using a similar tone to the person they like. So, if you notice someone matching your voice, they may have a crush on you. Someone who has a crush on you may also talk softly but in a way that shows they're invested in you. They're likely to have a tone of voice that is playful and engaging to show interest.



TICKLING YOUR FUNNY BONE
Jokes can be a way to get a good laugh and show attraction. Someone who has a crush on you is likely to use humor to get in your good graces. If you notice someone who tells jokes around you a lot and waits for you to laugh at a punchline, you're on the right track to discovering a crush. It doesn't matter if he's funny or not -- if he likes you he probably wants to make you laugh.

HAND GESTURES
Women are known for their hand movements when they have a crush on a man. She might flip her hair, put her hand closer to yours or touch you when you have said something funny or meaningful. Men talk more with their hands when they're trying to describe something to impress a woman.

CLOTHES
When someone has a crush, he will take more care with his appearance. A man will want to be clean shaven or rough looking, depending on his heart's desire. A woman will spend more time on her hairstyle, makeup and clothes.

How to Meet Women in Nightclubs

Nightclubs are renowned as great places to meet women, but the thought of actually going over and speaking to an attractive stranger can turn even a normally confident man into a tongue-tied wreck. Most people show up to clubs in pairs or groups, making an approach seem even more nerve-racking. However, some simple guidelines can help you make a comfortable introduction to someone you want to meet in a nightclub.

STEP 1
Dress well, in clean, smart clothes that are appropriate to the club venue. Do not wear anything that you don't feel comfortable in, as this will detract from your confidence, but it is important to at least be clean and tidy, including your shoes.

STEP 2
Spend time in the club just relaxing and looking around for women you might like to talk to. Do this subtly and do not ogle every woman as soon as she enters the club. Do not get too drunk.

STEP 3

Make eye contact with the woman you are interested in, but do not stare. Stick to short flirty glances. If she consistently avoids your gaze, take this as a sign she is not interested in you. Find someone who will return your glances, even if just for a few seconds at a time and once you have caught her eye a couple of times, smile. If she returns your smile, you are in a good position to approach her.

STEP 4

Walk towards the woman you have exchanged smiles with and as you approach her, say hello. If she responds in a friendly manner, start to make conversation. Do not open with a compliment or offering to buy her a drink. Start with a comment about the club or music; since you are both in the same place, you immediately have that in common.

STEP 5

Give your opinions honestly, but remember that people respond better to positive than negative attitudes, so find something positive to talk about -- unless the music truly is diabolical, in which case make sure any negative comments are light-hearted. Quickly ask her opinion in return, showing you are interested in her and freeing you from having to make all the conversation.

STEP 6

Listen to her as she speaks. Attentiveness is attractive and appropriate responses will get the conversation flowing.

STEP 7

Pay her a compliment. It is important to make sure it is genuine and it will seem much more so a few minutes into conversation than as an opening line.

STEP 8

Carry on the conversation for a few minutes longer, then ask her if she would like a drink, which at this stage will show you are interested in her and want to spend more time with her.

Places to Meet Intelligent Women

OVERVIEW
Theoretically, you can meet intelligent women almost anywhere: every demographic has its share of smart people, from MENSA meetings to NASCAR races. If you're a smart guy and want to find a woman who matches your intelligence level, however, you may want to focus on places which tend to attract smart women. Specifics vary depending upon your locale, but some general guidelines may help point you in the right direction.

MUSEUMS
Museums and art galleries tend to attract bright people. They provide quiet atmospheres -- giving space for contemplation -- and their pieces serve as fuel for perceptive and creative minds. They also provide good discussion fodder at the coffee shop afterward. It helps to know what you're talking about before approaching a woman at a museum. Read up on art history and have some idea of the movement which the various pieces embody, as well as particulars about the artists themselves. Many museums also have volunteer programs for those who would like to lead tours or provide symposiums on the collections. Signing up for such a program provides a great fulcrum for spending time with like-minded women.

BOOKSTORES
Bookstores and libraries may seem like a no-brainer -- and to be sure, not everyone attracted to the latest bestselling potboiler is bright -- but if a woman is intelligent, chances are she likes to read. School libraries work well too, since they attract women attending classes on campus. Many bookstores encourage casual browsing and have comfy chairs for curling up with a book. Many others have coffee shops attached, where people can read or surf the web over a cup of java. Both of them permit lengthy stays, allowing you to hang out and get acquainted. Libraries and bookstores may also host events like reading groups, providing an opportunity to interact with women in a more structured setting.

How to Attract Smart Girls

Attracting women takes more than a polo shirt and the right cologne, particularly if you're trying to attract intelligence. Confidence, poise and a sharp wit are all important tools when attempting to court a woman. Smart girls can be a little more difficult to attract, especially if you have no experience. However, there are a few tips that can help you with your pursuit.

STEP 1
Don't try to look smarter than you actually are. A smart girl is often very attentive and will see through any charades. Act normally and keep the conversation flowing. Share knowledge that adds to the conversation; don't make up anything or pretend to know things that you don't.

STEP 2
Avoid excessive fawning. An intelligent, young woman isn't looking for a guy to smother her with compliments, especially about 

STEP 3Be open-minded and curious. If there's something you don't know about, ask. This doesn't mean to inquire about every point, but appear brain hungry. Show that you're interested in the knowledge she possesses.
STEP 4Bring up topics in which you are well versed. For example, if you're an adept carpenter or a computer virtuoso, tell her about a recent project while avoiding the nitty gritty details. Present enough information to be interesting, without going into such detail as to completely lose her.
STEP 5Spend a lot of time at a library or bookstore. These are ideal locations to meet smart girls, and by simply being there, you might gain some bonus points. When it comes time to plan a first date, try choosing a similarly intellectual setting, such as a cafe that hosts poetry readings.

How to Attract Women on the Internet

Signing up for an online dating site is easy, but getting women to respond to your messages can be much more challenging. Improve your odds by creating a profile that highlights your best qualities and by writing quality messages. Remember that your goal is to come across as confident without seeming aggressive or desperate. Try to depict yourself as an easygoing nice guy who wants to get to know women.

STEP 1
Choose a picture for your dating profile that is appropriate. Avoid pictures that make you seem arrogant or unintelligent. Don't use a picture of you wearing sunglasses. Let women see your eyes and your face. Get a female friend to help you choose a picture that is attractive without making you seem cheesy.

STEP 2

Begin constructing your profile. Avoid inflating your good qualities or you will seem arrogant. Bragging about your wealth, your car or your body might attract a small percentage of women, but it will set off alarm bells for most of them. Keep it simple and talk about the good qualities of your personality rather than your possessions. Do this by saying what you are looking for in a women. Focus on qualities such as sensitivity, loyalty, sense of humor or an appreciation for the simple things in life.

STEP 3Keep the tone of your profile lighthearted and humorous. Most women are wary of men who seem desperate or too serious about online dating. If you can, emphasize the fact that you are new to Internet dating and that you don't expect to find your match. Joke about your flaws without being self-deprecating. Being able to talk about your weaknesses will actually make you seem more confident than someone who has to brag about his virtues.STEP 4Be honest. Avoid trying to match your interests to what you think women are looking for. Instead, talk about what makes you happy in life, what sorts of activities you enjoy and what interests you most. If you are genuine, your honesty will come across. If you are not looking for a serious relationship, say so in your profile. Women will appreciate your honesty.STEP 5Don't get too personal. Remember that women are on the lookout for predators. In your initial message or chat session, don't ask too many personal questions. Start with a general question such as "What sorts of things do you like to do on weekends?" Use her response as a way to begin a genuine conversation. For instance, if she answers that she likes to go to restaurants, show what you have in common by mentioning a restaurant you went to recently and liked.

5 Important Tips For Online Dating Success

No replies to your emails? Too few profile views? Try these 5 important online dating tips.
1. Use good pictures. There are thousands of people on these sites, and there is going to be someone similar to you who has better pictures. And he is going to get the woman you want. If you want to meet good people, you need to have good pictures. It’s that simple.
Your photos need to be clear and recent. Your dark, artsy photos are great as a supplement, but she needs to see what you look like in the light, without a hat, and without sunglasses. She needs to see you close up (a headshot), and from a little distance (a full length shot). If she can’t see what you really look like, you’re not going to get her phone number.
2. Write to people who are looking for someone like you. It is important to remember thatonline dating is not the same as online shopping. When you’re shopping, you can pick out whatever you like and make it yours. When you’re dating, the person you choose actually has some say in the matter.

Before you take the time to compose your message, look through her profile and try to view things from her perspective. Would she want to date you? Of course you’re great, but are you a great match for her? Do you fit all, or most, of what she’s looking for? And are you in her desired age range?
I often receive messages from men who seem to overlook the preferences I’ve stated in my profile. “Funny, I didn’t think my age would be an issue.” Really? Did you read the part where I listed the age range with which I’m comfortable? Last I checked, 50 is not in the set of numbers from 30-44. “Maybe I can win you over with my charm!” Or, maybe you could write to the fabulous 50-year-old women on this site who are clearly underappreciated.
Match.com has “Reverse Match” and “Mutual Match” search features to identify the people who are looking for someone like you. But if you insist on writing to those who aren’t, keep in mind that the site also has email filters to automatically send your messages to a special folder for unwanted mail, based on your age, height, location, and a few other criteria.
3. Don’t tease someone you don’t know. It comes off as insulting. “Props on your (mostly) sane Match Question answers.” Mostly sane? And which answers do you deem insane, oh wise one? That I wouldn’t let a dog sleep in my bed? Or perhaps that I think it is a choice, not an obligation, for a woman to shave her legs? Oh wait; I don’t really care what you think. I’m going to reply to this other guy. He has better pictures.
4. Ask good questions. This means you have to read her profile, and pay attention to what you read. Don’t offer to help her fix her bike, when the story in her profile is about her success in fixing her bike. Don’t ask her what she likes to do for fun, when she has already filled out the profile section that says “For fun I like to…”
Although it takes the same attention, this should be more interesting than the reading comprehension assignments you hated in grade school. The reward, here, is a really cool woman. It’s worth paying attention to what you read. The questions you ask should be interesting to you, and personal enough to connect to her. “Your Asia photos are great! What was your favorite part of the trip?”
5. Don’t be a stalker. While you are waiting for her reply, go on with your busy life. Don’t look at her profile to see if she has logged in. Don’t hover over your sent mail folder to see if she’s read your message. Remember that you don’t know this person at all, and you shouldn’t have any expectations of when she should reply.
If you’re using a dating site’s mobile app, emailing members may be as quick and easy as texting. But remember that each message you send shows up as an individual email. It is quite alarming to open an email thread and see several unread messages from a person you barely know! Take the time to compose your thoughts into one email, rather than several separate messages.

6 Online Dating Mistakes to Avoid

So, you’d like to meet someone and have decided to go online. That’s a good move — proactive and forward-thinking. But be careful not to be lulled into habits that will undermine your online dating experience.
Here are some tips to keep in mind as you peruse the seemingly endless stream of profiles from prospective partners.
1. Don’t go crazy over the pictures.

On the Internet, it's easy to feel nitpicky and maintain high expectations. With apps like Tinder, you snap-judge users as if you were scrolling amazon  for the best pair of speakers.
This sense of being in the driver’s seat, of choosing, can be appealing. It makes you feel powerful. Fight it.

If what you want is a real connection — a relationship with a person you hope to love and who will love you — you will have to bring your most mature and empathetic self to the project.
That means not saying, “Eh, she’s cute — but I prefer brunettes to blondes. Next!” You’d never behave this way in person, so don’t do it online.
2. Don't obsess about the details.

Don’t worry too much about the particulars: which restaurants, bars, movies or books a potential date likes. ("Oh, he lives in Queens" or "She prefers Six Feet Under to The Sopranos.")
Instead, take in the broad strokes — does he live in the same city? Is she a reader? Does he seem intelligent?
Do

Don’t become consumed with the idea that someone out there corresponds exactly to all your tastes and preferences.

After all, chances are many of your exes didn’t share your exact tastes, and nine times out of 10, it isn’t why you two broke up. If you obsess about the little things (this guy shares my passion for both dim sum and Noah Baumbach flicks!) you are likely to pass over the profiles of people who might actually make you happy.
What’s actually important in evaluating a profile is its tone. You want to try and get a sense of what the person is like, which can be truly difficult.
It’s a challenge as a novelist to convey characters in meaningful ways — it’s no less demanding for a person writing, or reading, dating profiles. It’s key to read between the lines to get a sense of whether the person seems well-adjusted — pleasant, friendly and reasonable, someone you would be drawn to if you met him or her in person, even if you didn’t know her top five favorite movies.
Look closely for signs of boastfulness, snideness or bitterness. Also, insincerity: the person who claims over and over again to “absolutely love” his or her life just the way it is, to be “completely and totally” satisfied with everything in it. These people claim to have joined said dating site on a lark (“my friend suggested it and I figured why not?”). These behaviors suggest this person might have trouble being honest about his or her vulnerability or true motives.
Attention to tone when you read profiles will help you to ferret some of those qualities no one admits to (we often don’t even know we have them, sadly).
4. Ignore claims about personality.

Ignore most of the person’s explicit claims about his or her personality — for example, “I have a sense of humor about myself” or “I’m an optimist.”


People are very unreliable self-reporters.
That’s not just because they lie (although that's a possibility, too), but because the way we see ourselves often bears little relation to how others see us. And only external events provoke our negative reactions, right? (We humans are expert self-justifiers.)
It means nothing. The only explicit claims worth taking at face value are factual — job, age, education and location. When it comes to less tangible qualities, people are just too biased.
On the other hand, it's worth paying attention to what is implicit in a profile — e.g., a sense of humor that rises to the surface. (A friend of mine answered a question about his strengths this way: “I am responsible about refilling the Brita pitcher.” This says more about what he’s like in conversation than any claim of being a "funny person.")
5. Don’t get attached based on a profile.No matter how much of an expert you’ve become at reading profiles, and no matter how well this girl or guy corresponds to your dream match, there’s still a lot you won’t be able to glean until you sit across from him or her at a coffee shop.

It doesn't matter how many delightfully winning asides he has included in profile about his cute devotion to his 96-year-old grandmother. Think her passion for hot dogs and minor league baseball suggests just the kind of chill, fun-loving girl you’ve fantasized about dating?
You learn so much more from a person’s manner and demeanor — whether he makes eye contact, her tone when she speaks, how often she smiles. You also recognize social niceties; that is, what sort of effort he makes to ask you questions, whether she is constantly checking her phone, etc.
So much vital information is only disclosed in person. The goal shouldn’t be to find your perfect match but merely to winnow down the possibilities to a reasonable number, and then to meet those people IRL.
6. Don’t construct a fantasy after two dates.

You shouldn’t do this offline either, of course, but the temptation to fantasize can be even greater when you’ve met someone online. After all, in his profile he claimed to be looking for a relationship (and why would he be online unless he really wanted to meet someone?) What more do you need? Answer: a lot.
Sometimes we get so tired of dating that we just want to be done with it, rush into the next thing: the relationship. But getting too attached too soon is often the worst thing that can happen to a budding connection. It tends to dampen flirtation or scares off your counterpart. After a few dates, you are still getting to know each other, no matter how perfect he or she seems. To become too attached suggests that you are projecting a fantasy onto the other person.
It can be hard, when you so badly want to find “the one,” but getting to know another person, truly, takes time and patience.
What are some other tips you have for evaluating online profiles for compatibility? Let us know in the comments.

How to Spot an Online Dating Scammer

Online dating scams are rife. Anyone can be targeted. You do not have to be rich and you do not have to be stupid. You just have to be looking for love, a search that causes you to be more vulnerable than usual. And love is the tool scammers use to pry open your bank account and strip you of your assets. By learning how to spot a scammer, you can protect yourself.

IT IS IMPORTANT TO ASK THE PERSON TO CONNECT THROUGH SKYPE SO THAT HE/SHE CAN BE IDENTIFIED AND IF NOT ASK THAT HE/SHE CREATE AN ACCOUNT

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Note any age difference in which you are the older one. Online dating scammers usually target people older than themselves. In the case of a male scammer, they often target middle aged women in their 50's to 60's. They believe these people to be ideal targets as they are usually richer and more vulnerable.

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Look for the following descriptions in their profile:

self employed, a professional (for example, an engineer) working overseas

a widower with a child (or just widowed)

they claim to live near you, in your country, currently away but will be returning soon

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Do a photo check. Save a copy of their profile picture. Use Google image search. Check the results. Are they already marked up as scammers or is the return illegitimate in some way? Report to the dating site giving the evidence, including any

4Check other photos you receive. Look for signs that don't seem to gel with who you understand this person to be. For example, check the background, landscapes and even clocks or calendars. Can you see identifying features that do not match with the picture this person has built up of themselves website links.

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Note discrepancies that are a dead giveaway. For example:

They say they have been away, yet their profile shows them online (most likely chatting up some other victim online).

The profile shows geographic inconsistencies, often referencing places that are not in geographic proximity to where they live

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Tips about online dating

If you are interested in finding out what online dating has to offer, then here are seven killer tips that you might find useful on your journey to finding the perfect woman for you.

1. Get into the right mindset.

Before you even look at a dating website, it would be important for you to figure out what you really want to get out of the experience first. If you have no idea what kind of woman you are looking for yet, then resist the temptation to join a dating website with hopes that she will just pop out at you when you see her. She won’t. So, before getting on the World Wide Web, write down the traits of the woman of your dreams. This is definitely the best tip to start with, in general.

Win a heart thru online dating.

2. Put some real hard work into your personal profile.
Once you find a dating website that you find interesting enough to peruse and mingle in, the first thing that you need to do is put some real hard work into creating your personal profile. In this profile, you will have to write about yourself, your expectations, and your personality, amongst other things.
As tempting as it might be, it would be vital not to say, share or release too much information on a dating website, though. After all, most women won’t be interesting in reading too much when trying to meet a man online.
Plus, doing so will also eliminate any mystery that you might have been surrounded with in the beginning. Your dating profile should only exist to give women a little taste of what you have to offer them instead of throwing an entire package in their face with hopes that they’ll catch it on the first try – remember that.

3. Honesty is key.
While it would be vital to create a unique, interesting, creative and concise personal profile on the Internet; it would also be vital to be as honest as possible on it. This would hold especially true if you are looking for a woman to get into a long-term relationship with. As in the world of traditional dating, honesty is key in grabbing and maintaining a woman’s interest online.

4. Put some real hard work into your photos, too.
This might not sound like a big deal to you, but looking good in your photos is an absolute must. If your actual looks play a vital role in real life, your photos will play just as vital a role in the digital world. Since women won’t be able to judge your looks over the Internet, all that they will be able to do is peruse your photos and make their decision from there. So, make it a point to only post photos where you look great.
However, this doesn’t mean that you should digitally enhance your photos to the point of perfection. You still need to look genuine and real and, above all things, you still need to look like yourself. After all, you don’t want to end up going on a date with a woman later on down the line just to see her react unpleasantly because she expected you to look very different from what you really look like, do you?
As mentioned in the previous tip: honesty is key – not just in your words, but in your photos, as well. If you even try to pull one over on a woman, she won’t be happy about, no matter how much you win her over with your personality before you meet.

5. Make your first email count.
Statistics show that women on dating websites are generally more mature than the men on them. This means that women will be really picky online. With that in mind, you should always send out emails that will make a great impression on them. To do this, be direct, but not cocky. Be clear and simple, too. Let her know that you’ve read her profile and find her very interesting. Then, ask her to read your profile and to only reply if she finds you very interesting, too.


6. Get her number early on.
If you end up exchanging emails with a girl that you like, make it a point to get her number early on. If you just keep sending emails back and forth for too long, she might start seeing you as nothing but an online pen pal and then get sick of you after a while. So, if you have already noticed that she is starting to open up to you more and there is a chance to finally ask for her phone number, just go for it!

7. Call her as soon as possible.
If you have already gotten to know each other quite well over the Internet and if you have already gotten her phone number, then make it a point to call her within the next few days. As with the emails, waiting too long won’t do you any good. In fact, she might completely forget that she gave you her number and not even recall which one you are anymore. Keep in mind that women on the Internet willtalk with a lot of other men, not just you. So, call her up as soon as you can, politely introduce yourself and then work your way up from there until you ask her out on a real date and she agrees.

Online dating profile tips for men: why you should avoid selfies and remember to mention your exes

Men who discuss previous relationships and children – while avoiding selfies and use of the word ‘baby’ – are more likely to get responses on online dating sites, according to a new study

Writing about a divorce or previous relationship in an online dating profile boosts men’s chances of being contacted by more than 50 per cent, according to a survey of 4,000 site users.

But women who do the same, or open up about being a single mother, are four per cent less likely to receive messages from members of the opposite sex, the study found.

The report, commissioned by dating website Zoosk, also found that men were more likely to have success with online dating if their profile featured a picture taken outside (with 19 per cent more messages), while women who posted outdoors pictures got 40 per cent fewer messages on average.

Selfies were found to be turn-off when featured on men’s profiles but increased interest when they were shown on women’s.

Susan Quilliam, a relationships coach who runs courses in online dating, said women might be more likely to contact a man who mentions a divorce because this offers reassurance that he is now single.

On the other hand, men might be more wary of women who look like they’ve got a lot of relationship history. They want to be the most important man in a women’s life. I wouldn’t say that’s sexist necessarily, it’s just down to gender differences.”

She added that selfies were a no-no for men because they so often looked uncomfortable when taking them.

“The most important thing in your profile picture is to look welcoming – I haven’t found it matters so much whether it’s inside or outside – and that’s hard to do when you’re taking a picture of yourself.

“People are so used to seeing professional, airbrushed photos in the media so a selfie will almost always look really amateurish and like you don’t care.”

The Zoosk survey also found that men who used the words ‘baby’ and ‘beautiful’ in their first message to women were 10 and 13 per cent respectively less likely to get a response.

Full words were shown to be important to both sexes, with people using ‘ur’, ‘b4’ and ‘cuz’ less likely to be contacted. Writing ‘rofl’ on a profile reduced the likelihood of receiving messages by 13 per cent.

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Online dating seemed like a great idea until your Tinder dates scared the crap out of you or you started wondering if all of the women on Match were actually bots. But that doesn’t mean you can’t find the love of your life—or even your next great hookup—online. Here are 5 new dating services that will help you meet the women you want, no matter your online dating frustrations.

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Dreamcliq
This is for you if writing an “about me” description makes you break out in a cold sweat. Apart from asking you to state a few basics like name, age, and location, this site is completely photo-based—and anything X-rated will be taken down quick. You select 20-some of your best pictures from social media or your camera roll to showcase your personality. 

If you like someone’s portfolio, you can send a message. There’s no membership fee, but each time you send her a “cliq” on her profile it costs $2.50. It’s a different approach to membership fees, but by showing her that you’re really invested in talking, she’s more likely to write back. Ignoring you is like her not saying “thanks” after you buy her a drink. (Hey, at least it’s cheaper this way if she rejects you.)

Jess, Meet Ken
It’s like your friends trying to find you a blind date, but in the digital age. Still in beta, this (for now) free site lets women run the show. (Because you shouldn’t always have to do all the work.) Guys can only have profiles submitted by female friends; so if a woman browsing the site is into you, she can message your friend first. If your gal-pal thinks you’d be a good match, you get an introduction. Connect through Facebook and the site will help prod your friends to post a profile for you. 

Hinge
For the guy who is wary of crazies. It looks a lot like Tinder. But—hold on—instead of randos, this free mobile app does a better job of matching you with users who have at least one Facebook friend in common. Think of it as a way to be introduced to somebody just on the fringe of your social circle. It’s currently available to singles in Washington D.C., Philadelphia, New York City, Boston, San Francisco, Chicago, Atlanta, Dallas, L.A., Houston, Austin, and San Antonio. 

Tastebuds
Sometimes it just comes down to finding the right person to rock out with. Discover your ideal concert companion with Tastebuds, which matches people based on their music tastes. Bonus: The free service just acquired Moosify, which used to be its competitor. So the site and companion app now has an extra 100,000 music-loving singles to choose from. Even if it isn’t true love, at least you’ll have someone to call when you score that extra concert ticket.

LinkedUp!
If you want more of women’s résumé info, try LinkedUp. Instead of syncing with Facebook to pull users’ photos and personal information, this mobile app syncs with LinkedIn accounts. For free, you can anonymously pass on a profile or like somebody, and can even search for a match based on a specific job industry. (Perfect if you’re looking for a personal trainer to fall in love with—and get free workout advice at the same time.)